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- on this episode we talk about headlines, self-awareness, and why yourdad showed up on instagram. (upbeat music) ♫ gary vee ♫ you ask questions ♫ and i answer them ♫ this is ♫ the #askgaryvee show ♫ hey everybody, this is gary vay-ner-chuk
and this is episode 102 of the #askgaryvee show. so last night was a long night. i got some four dinners and an after party business networking. got home at 4:15 in the morning, so a little bit more tired than normal. happy memorial day, everybody in the u.s. and happy weekend toeverybody outside the u.s.
india, let's get into the show! (laughing) i love that part. for some reason it's like myfavorite part of the show. - [india] it's getting longer and longer. - i'm like literally it'sgonna eventually be like let's. i'm gonna just startcomin' up with different.
- [india] you're justbeing really weird today. - drock, stop trying to,like, force the show. you're such a over-producer. alright, india, let's get into the show. - [voiceover] lyndon wants to know, "what kind of headlinesattract you on social media?" - lyndon, it's a great question. i think the interestingpart about this question is i think a lot of differentheadlines attract me
and i think the headlinecopy reading call it the buzzfeed-ification of media is fully in play now. i mean, when you go look with a, it'd be fun to ask steve this question. it probably hurts your, actually nah, that's not true. i'm curious what your take is on the fact that like the new yorktimes now does this, right?
like literally the wholeworld has gone slang and five, you know, ways to do this. like it's all headline copy marketing. it's the stuff i built wine library on on email marketing headlines. it's just become the game. i'm not quite sure exactlywhat's grabbing my attention. usually it's around the subject matter, so usually things that scare me, like,
"jets running backs in trouble." oh no! you know, like? but i'm not sure but the reason i wanted to answer the question is because i think it's very important for everybody who's watching the show. i know a lot of peoplehere are go-getters, entrepreneurs, and do-gooders,
whether you're trying toraise money for your charity or whether you're trying to sell a boot for the winter, you need to really think about the copy on everything you put out. it is an absolute variable to success. you can follow all the structural advice that i'm giving you, but when you get to writing the copy
on a facebook dark post or apinterest post or on twitter, if you're not good at that, if you're not good atgrabbing someone's attention, you're in big trouble and so i'm not sure what'sgrabbing my attention but i know that theperson behind writing it is doing a good job. that's how you answer the question without answering the question.
by bringing value to your audience, not by dodging, steve. - [steve] what have i dodged? - no nothing, you were laughing, your laugh was like (laughs sinisterly). (laughing off screen) - all right, let's go. - [voiceover] bruce asks, "why is twitter "so much like a wallin a public bathroom?"
- bruce, this is a tremendous question. i think the, i would argue that it's not. i would argue that secret was more like a public bathroom because you don't know who wrote it. and i think that what's scarier probably by your rant is that people are actually putting theirfaces behind these comments that you think are so lame or interesting
or aggressive or howeveryou're positioning it. so i would argue that they're not. i think that they're, twitter's much more like, you know, a cocktail party where people are just making statements or a gathering of friends or you know less of the bathroom stall. to me that's secret and all the other
anonymous, yik yak, and all the other anonymous place. that's more the psychology. you write something thatnobody can attribute to you. bathroom business jargon. (laughing offscreen) - [voiceover] from tagline-- - sh (audio cuts out) people say in business and bathroom.
this is gonna be one of the great black and white episodesof the #askgaryvee show. you guys are lovin' this, right? all right. - [voiceover] tagline tom wants to know, "what are some easy waysto become more self-aware?" - tagline tom! i think there's one hack forbecoming more self-aware, which is asking people around you
and creating a safe zone, a permission for them to actually tell you about you from their perspective, and it's on you to create that safe place so that they actually tell you things that you may not wanna hear, because what i think could happen is that you get chippedaway at and i think that ultimately if youhear enough people say
that you you're too kind or too aggressive or full of shit or whatever itis that eventually, you know, i gotta stop cursing 'causeall the facebook posts now you guys need to beep. that's extra work for you guys. i like how you guys (mumbles). you know i think thatthat's the one place, that's the only hack i know. i don't think there's any other move.
i think it's aboutgetting people to tell you about yourself in safe environments. be aggressive about that. really seek out that feedback and then be man enough, woman enough, to eat it, really. and the way you get more of it is when a friend of you says, "i think you're a little full of crap."
you know, you don't end that relationship. you triple down on that relationship 'cause they're givin' it to you. and that's, if you reallywant self-awareness, you need to wildly, if youwanna hack self-awareness i actually think it'spredicated on having thick skin. i think that is why,i really think so much of what i pull off is predicatedon how thick my skin is. my skin is thick.
you know, i just can handle it. i just can. i hate it. i hate it! i hate, like, reading, like, you know, bad stuff about me. it's devastating. but i respect it. i can accept it.
i understand it. and i try to use it as something that i go on the offensewith going forward and so they're learning moments and so, you know, if youcould get over yourself, right, and the funnything is, i don't know, i feel like i'm soself-aware i'm not sure if, i think but i, you know, even like, even people that i think arenot self-aware around me,
it's funny to me howself-aware they really are. it's just you don't let your brain accept your shortcomings. as we, oh, the self-awareness video. this'd be a good time to click it up. if you haven't seen this, this is some of the best work. who is this? this was drock or stephan?
stephan, this is great. this was great, this was great. show him. this was great. show him, show him. great. watch the video. link it up and like show a little still. you know what?
drock, end in like a little, i want 13 seconds of it. your choice, go. - [voiceover] this is a wordthat is rarely talked about in our space that i wanna start building more attention for. self-awareness. i wanna deliver on this message so much. i would create a test or a drug
that allowed people to become self-aware. one potion inject. not hustle, not smart. i don't fear being self-aware. - all right, let's keep going. - [voiceover] stephanie asks, "like why is my dadfollowing me on instagram? "like noo that's unacceptable." - stephanie, i have bad news.
every social network that you go to to try to get away from pops, when they hit scale,pops is gonna show up. hey stephanie? it's your dad! this knick knack thing is real cool! that's what's gonna always happen for the rest of your life. and by the way, let me get a little bit
deeper on that. steve, you were about to say something. - i was just gonna say somethingfor the end of the show. hold it til the end of the show. - do it, do it, ruin the end of the show. - we're on spotify! - whaddya mean? - you excited? i'm excited, we're on spotify.
the #askgaryvee show. - it's on spotify? - i sent you four emails yesterday. - guess it was a busy day. that is cool. - [steve] yeah. - we're on, see? it was a black and white announcement. this is a black and white announcement.
we're on spotify. this was not a color announcement. this was a black and white announcement. - [steve] her dad's on spotify, too. - and stephanie, going back to you, and the entire vaynernation, soon you'll be a part of it, stephanie. yes you will. you know, i know it was weird,
that creep alex hit you up that somebody answered your questionon twitter randomly. i love this whole thing. making alex the creepyguy is so fun for me. look, that's what just happens, right? it happened with facebook, it's happening right now with instagram. the youth establishes these new kind of community centers for our society
and then everybody follows. that's a very interesting dynamic because i think that's the reverse of the way human nature has been for a very long time. and so i think that theyouth culture of our society is now establishing themain community centers. not the hot new club. that's different.
this is the out and out community centers of our society. it's going to have verymassive long-term effects on us as humans. i think that's why we're living through a youthification that i talk a lot about. and so that's why it'shappening, stephanie. - [voiceover] johannes says, "how do you balancespeed/hustle and patience?"
johannes is such a great name. i really like that one. it's like johanne and pocahontas. no, seriously. (multiple people speakingat once offscreen) you weren't thinking that? that's what i was thinking. i was thinking that johan santana was dating pocahontas and they were
known as a couple as johanntes. (person speaking indistinctly offscreen) johan said there's a real baseball player, leftie, and pocahontasis obviously pocahontas. okay, let's go to it. obviously, this is. i got it, johannes. right? - [voiceover] (mumbles)
this is the best questionbecause the truth is i really believe that i'm a bridge, right? i'm pulling equally, very aggressively from both sides. that i'm a human contradiction. that if you really watch this show and it throws people off, as they get deeper into my content, that oftentimes i'm saying things
that contradict themselves'cause the truth is they both live in reallife at the same time and it's about findingthat cadence and balance to guide through. i am massively, at aglobal level, patient. but on a practical level,and an execution level, i'm very fast, right? so it's really, it really isreligion and church, right? like at the highest,like at the theoretical,
at the, at the grey levelsof patient, long game, i'm aware that as long as i'm alive, i'm playing the businessman game and it doesn't end tomorrow and if it ends tomorrow, i don't know the outcomeanyway 'cause i'm dead. and so, but in real life, i understand it's a race and speed is a variable forsuccess to me in a big way.
hustle, and so like they're, patience and speed are very much rubbing against each other but it's like the diamondcomes from that, right? and so that's the thingthat i think about. i find it very easy to do both. you have to understand, there's people that are both in practicaland philosophical terms, and they have different outcomes.
aka there's people that philosophically are not patient. they're impatient. and they're fast. and they look like the badversion of what i am, right? they're like hustlers and they're like doing everything for themselves and they're not patient. they don't care about the long game
and they're just gonna take and they're just gonnatake and take and take and gonna take fast and they're gonna gather and i think that society,the game rewards them and there's a lot ofmillionaires and billionaires that didn't do it the right way and that's what i think they look like. then there's a lot of people that are
massively patient and slow, and those are theenormous amount of people that, you know, in a business context, not in life, they're probably some of the loveliest human beings that have ever been made because they're slow and they're patient and everything's just lovely and let's just like sit on the porch
and, you know, drink peach tea for the rest of ourlives and like go slow. just go real slow. like let's sit and look at stuff. like let's sit on the porch and look. like look at stuff. like a car just drove by. like i mean that, you know, is not interesting to me, either,
and so that exists. so i actually thinkwhat i do exists a lot. i think it's the likable,you know, aggressive person. and that's, you know, they're out there and there's a lot of winnersthat are good people. i really think that. if you look at my analogies, the speed part is really valuable, right? like if you're speedy andselfish and impatient,
you know, i think the other thing about the lack of patience and fast, you don't have to be a bad person. i think it leads to mistakes. that's another variable layer here. you know, it's funny that my brain went that first narrative. here's a second narrative. you're going fast, you're not patient,
so you rush the outcome and you leave money on the table. you sold a company too soon. you weren't as profitable as you could've beenbecause you missed things 'cause you didn't see it'cause you weren't tactful. and so, you know, i thinkit has essence of strategy. you know, somebody once said to me about vayner,
"gary, you guys are so interesting." he was trying to zing me a little bit, that we weren't strategic enough. he said, "you're so interesting," but he's like, "whenyou get into the house, "i feel like a lot of times you guys "just run through the glass window "instead of opening the door." it was a funny analogy.
and then i looked at him and said, "yeah, but we're gonna own all the homes." i guess that's a good way to end it. - [india] that's good. - cool. question of the day. what are you, india, you get to askthe question of the day. i know, you knew it was gonna happen.
(india sighs) - i don't really know what i wanna know. what are your memorial day weekend plans? you're gonna hate it. you hate it. - it's almost weirdlythe thing i was gonna do. - what really? - yeah. you keep asking questions.
india will keep telling me to answer them. - i will. - let's do it. we can maybe turn this. yeah? - [india] you said youwanted to make a video, too. - cool, so let's do it. - [steve] you can't have nice things.
